Relationship
State of the Onion, September 2007
A few weeks ago this was an ugly place. All I could find the energy to write about was painful introspection as I re-evaluated where I was in the Universe, how I got there, and what I was going to have to do if I decided I wanted to move to a different Spiral Arm of the Milky Way. Introspection is a messy process, and at least one of my friends thinks I’m crazy for being public about it. He may be right. I may be crazy. I might just be living an 80’s Billy Joel song. 
So, after all that messy introspection, which has been taken off-line now that the rough spots are for the most part passed, I felt like I should let my friends know how I’m doing.
- I’ve abandoned Polyamory as a relationship style. It wasn’t fulfilling my particular relationship needs.
- I am going back to by birth name: Christopher Lee O’Halloran
- Mel and I are back together, better than ever before; and are in fact engaged to be married on January 12th.
I am sure I am leaving a few things out, but I have been putting this off long enough, and I just want to get something posted. For more information about Mel & I’s engagement, visit http://www.hausboheme.org/
-Chris
What does it mean to be human?
I’ve always thought that one of the defining points of being human is the ability to change not just the world around you, but yourself as well. Personalities develop, evolve and grow. If this were not the case the world would be full of full grown whining babies. (Hmmm… Gotta reconsider that point.) I know that I am not the person I was in high school, or college, or even five years ago. Having recently come back into contact with a group of friends I hadn’t seen in ten years I can say that they were similar, and recognizable, but obviously not the same people I knew back then. Change is part of life, and it is part of being human; and I have always believed that very deeply. I can’t understand someone who doesn’t like who they are, but believes so deeply that they can’t change themselves that they choose to use it as an excuse instead.
What are we if we can’t choose who we want to be?